The Power of Forgiveness
Some days ago I was driving and I had to change lane, but there wasn’t enough room for my car in the new lane, so the back of my car slightly invaded the previous lane for a short time. A guy on that lane surpassed my car with his car, and he stopped to look at me and started gesturing, upset for not having the full lane for himself. Our windows were closed and so we couldn’t hear each other, but he would look at me in the eyes and gesture in ways that said “why? why did you do this? couldn’t you do better?!”. He was upset. I listened to him, quiet, looking at him without reacting. It wasn’t my fault, nor his fault, but it didn’t matter to me who was at fault. I felt his pain and I understood where he was coming from, I understood that was the result of an accumulation of pain that nothing had to do with the circumstances. Once he finished, I looked at him, and I whispered “I’m sorry”, shining the true compassion, forgiveness, and understanding, that I was deeply feeling in that moment. He stopped for a second, then he tried to restart complaining, but this time his motivation had faded, he was visibly forcing himself to keep going, but his feelings had already changed. I listened to him again, then I whispered again, and this time more clearly, without contracting the words: “I am sorry”. He stopped, looked down for a second, then looked up at me, turned away for a second, then looked back at me, smiled, and sent me a kiss. I could feel the love he was sending me. It was real. An “I am sorry” had transformed hate into love, in just a few seconds. For those microseconds, we had a real connection, we went from being total strangers unconsciously and irrationally fighting due to our pain bodies, to being an old couple making peace after an emotional storm - finally present, conscious, and connected.
We are not born with knowledge about how the world works, neither we know who we are, what our purpose in the world is, until we start walking around, bumping against the walls of society, interacting with others, to discover its shape, and our shape too.
After my awakening, years ago, I have realized that I, as others, am an empath, a leader (ENFJ), an unconditional lover, a highly sensitive person (HSP), and a truthbearer, a personality type that the law calls whistleblower, that spirituality defines as a lightworker, and that religions call a prophet.
People like me face a lot of resistance in the world, and they’re even convinced, through gaslighting, that they are the problem. Reality is that this personality type and inborn traits are much rarer than others, because they are the healers, the shamans, the leaders, and the spiritual guides, and the world needs few of them, because, with their voice, their actions, and their philosophies, they have the power to awaken and guide millions of others.
Empaths are individuals who have a high number of mirror neurons and a high development of the brain areas in charge for empathy: empaths literally feel what others feel without need for information. Cognitive “empathy” is not empathy, it is indeed the capability of understanding others’ psychology and feelings, without feeling what others feel, and it often is a sign of narcissism because it allows to use this information to hurt others, to used and abuse them. On the contrary, empathy doesn’t allow empaths to use others, because empaths would feel others’ pain and therefore would have no benefits from hurting them.
ENFJ personality type is the leader personality type and has all the cognitive traits to lead others naturally. ENFJ individuals are recognized as leaders regardless of the fact that they are aware of being leaders or not, and because of that they are persecuted by egoic individuals who want to be leaders, people who systematically target ENFJ individuals just to mimic their personality trait while also persecuting the victim, in order to “destroy the original”.
Unconditional lovers are individuals who love unconditionally, so, those who love, because conditional love is not love, is a form of training. If you pet your dog for bringing back a toy, so that you don’t have to stand up and go grab it yourself, that’s a training. If you pet your dog because you feel like it may need some love, that’s love, unconditional love.
HSPs are individuals who are born with specific mutations, especially in neurological receptors, which allow them to see reality more clearly than others, to understand patterns and connect the dots intuitively better than others, and that therefore know more than others due to a higher resolution on reality and a higher certainty in their perceptions.
All these traits make people be truthbearers, healers, awakeners, guides for others, prophets, and whistleblowers.
However, our society is built on lies, because we have been detached from our natural habitat a long time ago, and we must be convinced of being home already, so that it takes longer for us to remember that we are in captivity, and to wanting to escape and break free, taking everyone with us through social revolutions.
In such a world, truthbearers become a problem, and are therefore persecuted.
I’ve struggled understanding this for a long time, because trying to love others, to awaken them, to bring the truth, should be rewarded, and so it took me a while to accept why our current world has such a difficult time accepting guidance from its natural leaders and guides. Then I had an enlightening experience that gave me the final grasp on the reason why people like me have been persecuted since the beginning of time.
The Big Bang has split the Universe in all of its components. As a prism splits light in all of its frequencies, the Big Bang has split the Universe in a spectrum of frequencies, from the highest to the lowest, including its major component and the force that holds its parts together: love. Some people, called unconditional lovers, are born with a soul that has the highest frequency of love, some others are born with lesser love, and experience lesser love from the world, because love is not something we receive, it is a feeling that comes from within. Some others are born with no love at all, and they feel and experience hate for their whole life. These unfortunate souls are everywhere, and they are what many define as evil people, and their energy frequency is what religions call the Devil. They’re just part of the Universe as much as lovers are, but they are the parts of the Universe that experience the most pain, the most trauma.
If the Universe was a wounded body, those people would be the most painful part of the wound. Lovers instead, are the parts of the Universe that surround the wound, and therefore constantly face persecution while the wound tries to spread, to disperse some of the pain to others, while lovers try to heal the wound. But the skin surrounding the wound is a battlefield, because the wounded ones don’t know that they are wounded, and they start believing that the healthy parts of the body are the problem, that the Universe is a wound, forgetful of being part of a whole, and so they start spreading. They don’t know what it means to be spiritually and emotionally healthy, to love unconditionally, they truly have no idea, because they have never experienced love. They only know hate, and so they spread it, fighting against those who have no pain at all and try to heal them, out of envy for not being able to experience love by themselves.
In a world where wounded people rule, hate rules, and healers and lovers are persecuted.
In a world where everyone is convinced to lie, to put on a mask, to inflict pain onto others, to chase evil goals, truthbearers are persecuted, because they remind everyone how they’re not pure any longer, of their stain, of their wounds, of their lies, of their corruption, of their façade, of the pain they inflict, and of the unhappiness they feel.
Jesus had understood this, and he had understood that the only way out of it is forgiveness. Forgiving others for their wounds, for their pain, for their hate, and for the hate and pain they spread inflicting suffering onto others, is the most powerful gesture we can make, because it allows others to forgive themselves and break the cycle of pain and hate.
Forgiving ourselves is as important as forgiving others, because it is the only way to acknowledge that we too have initially allowed the world to make us drift from our purpose, but nothing real can be lost, and so forgiveness allows us to get back on track.
Forgive, now.
More info in my book, The Fractal Universe and the theory of everything: https://www.amazon.com/Fractal-Universe-theory-everything/dp/B0BYC2NQP4
